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Introduction: You read the books, took the quizzes and came to the conclusion that you are in a relationship with an emotional abusers. Maybe you've tried to get your spouse into counseling and he refuses. Most likely, you have tried to change yourself to make him happy. To date, nothing has worked -- no matter what you do or how hard you try, the name-calling and belittling gets worse. The time has arrived for you to make a decision to protect yourself by leaving your emotional abuser. The decision to separate is often gut-wrenching, but consider the compelling reasons to leave an emotional abuser.

  • 01

    You Deserve Better

    No one has the right to make you feel small. Every person, no matter who you are or what mistakes you have made, deserves respectful treatment. Your partner's emotional abuse results from his problems, not yours. A good relationship does not involve emotional abuse, but instead uses communication and negotiation to solve problems. If your emotional refuses to work with you to develop healthy methods of relating, leave.

  • 02

    Childen Learn What They See

    Children learn the behaviors that their parents model for them. When emotional abuse occurs, your daughter gets the message that men are allowed to say whatever they want to women. Boys learn that they do not need to be respectful or compassionate. Daughters of abusers grow up to marry abusers, while sons tend to abuse their spouses as adults. You have a responsibility as a parent to be very clear that abuse should not be tolerated by leaving your emotional abuser. Teach your children well and leave your emotional abuser.

  • 03

    Your Mental Health

    Emotional abuse makes you feel small and worthless. Name-calling and shouting eats away at your self-esteem. Depression and anxiety often accompany emotional abuser. The stress from the emotional scenes will hinder your ability to deal with other issues in your life. If you are experiencing depression or anxiety, see your doctor and confide what you have experienced. Your doctor can give you medication if appropriate and may be able to assist you in leaving your emotional abuser.

  • 04

    Your Physical Health

    In addition to your mental health, your physical health suffers from emotional abuse. According to WebMd, stress has dramatic effects on your heart. Stress worsens high blood pressure, abnormal heartbeat and hardening of the arteries. Your emotional abuser's tirades can even cause a heart attack. Abuse also impacts your immune system and your digestive system. Leaving your emotional abuser gives you a chance to restore your health.

  • 05

    Your Life Is In Danger

    Emotional abuse can and does escalate to physical abuse. United States Department of Justice statistics show that 1,247 women died in the year 2000 due to domestic violence. Thirty-three percent of female murder victims are killed by their spouses or boyfriends. Leave your emotional abuser before you become a statistic.




Comments

  • snowfence 2/21/2011 Flag This Comment

    Absolutely! H5!

  • wmardas 1/28/2011 Flag This Comment

    I was in an abusive marriage, and it took me years to work up the strength I needed to get out of it. It is so important that people in an abusive relationship understand why they need to leave and realize that there is help. If you are being abused, please feel free to visit my blog at http://howigotaway.blogspot.com/. Be safe!

  • PriscillaBenfield 1/26/2011 Flag This Comment

    "Compelling" is the perfect word to use for this list. I think someone in this kind of situation could be helped by reading this list. If they can find the inner strength your reasons should give them the push to walk away from this kind of life.High 5!!

  • BonnieDossKnight 1/26/2011 Flag This Comment

    I was a victim of abuse for over 30 years. I didn't want my children to live in a "broken home" during the last cycle of spousal abuse. What I didn't realize was the home was already too broken to mend. You keep on advocating for the abused and I'll be your #1 support person. HI5

  • jseven 1/26/2011 Flag This Comment

    Excellent list, high 5! Been there and done it. My health did suffer, too.

  • workhomeunion 1/26/2011 Flag This Comment

    "You deserve better," and "Children learning what they see" are two of many important reasons to sever ties with an emotional abuser. Nice list, hi5.

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